Hello Friends!

Today I’m going to talk a bit about good manners and bon-ton, in our own wedding day. Although it will be our big day and we can do pretty much all the things we want, it is true as well that we shouldn’t exaggerate! We should follow some easy rules for avoid a “big fat oafish wedding”!
Actually there are a tons of rules, but I think that some of these are too firm, so in the following lines I’ll show you the minimum guidelines, a sort of list of “DO & DON’T”, for have a mannered, but not too much formal, wedding day. As I said always at last it is your day and you can do everything you want, my purpose is only to suggest some trick for those of you who want follow some bon-ton rules.

Tricks for the Bride:

•  The Dress: the color and the length depends from the age of the bride. The good manner suggests shorter dress for mature bride instead for the young ones it is suggested long and sumptuous dresses with long train.
  Concerning the color: optical white only for really young brides, for all the other it is better ivory white, cream white and light pink as well. Especially for religious ceremony, the bride should avoid a deep neckline. According with the bon-ton rules, the shoulders should be covered, at least with the dress’ veil.
  Usually the dress should be appropriate to the kind of ceremony: for a formal ceremony you can chose a sumptuous dress, instead for a “country” ceremony the dress should be more basic and shorter (ankle length).
  At last the veil: it is allowed only for the religious ceremony.

  

  

  

  

  
  
• Accessories: only the gloves are allowed and the bride must remove them when arrived at the altar. No hat (you can wear a tiny veil), no coat and no bag (only for not religious ceremony the bride can bring a tiny bag).
• Jewels: according to good manners all jewels are avoided.

I should admit that I “broke” this last rule because I’m not completely agree with. In my opinion you can wear little and basic jewels if you want. For example, for my own wedding I wore a tiny necklace with a small diamond and earrings with diamonds very small. Because of my arms’ shape (I have very long arms) and because of my dress (my arms, my shoulders and a big part of my back as well were naked), I decided to wear a tennis bracelet as well similar to the necklace and the earrings.

• Makeup and Hairstyle: the real suggestion for these topic is to commisurate both to the dress. Usually it is a good idea a natural makeup, light makeup studied perfectly for having the best results for the pictures.

  

  

  

  

  
  

  The best hairstyles are gathered ones also very complicate ones, you can also add some diamonds, pearls and flowers as well.

  

  

  

  

  
  
• Shoes: I suggest to avoid super high heels for two reasons: the first one is that this kind of shoes could appear vulgar. The second reason is because of comfort: remember that you should wear these shoes all day long, due to this it is a better idea to give up some cm of heel for gained more comfort!

  

  

  

  

  
  
• Nail polish: It should be basic and discreet. The most common nail art are: French manicure, mono color or degrade effect.

  

  

  

  

  
  
• Bouquet: it will arrive at the bride’s house the wedding morning. It is important that the bouquet is accorded with the shape of the bride and the dress as well. For more info about this topic you can read one of my previous posts about flowers, in which I talked also about the bridal’s bouquet (link).
  

  Tricks for the Groom:

• The Dress: if the ceremony will be daily the right dress is a Tight or Half Tight. After the 6.00 pm a Frac is allowed. For most country and easy ceremonies, dark suit is allowed (dark grey or dark blue).

  

  

  

  

  
  
• Accessories: the coat is allowed in wintertime. Gloves, hat and cylinder hat are allowed only if the groom wears a classic Tight. The tie and the belt should be formal. The watch is allowed as well, and only in very particular cases the groom can wear the family ring (of course in the right hand).
• Time: the groom must arrive at the ceremony place at least 20 minutes in advance and he should host all the guests.
  These are the minimum good manner to follow for an elegant (but not necessary too formal) wedding day. As usual you can do what you prefer, these are only some suggestion and guidelines.

I broke the “No Jewels” rule. And what about you? Did you already know this etiquette? Did you follow all the rules in your wedding? Or did you break some rules like me?
Let me know in the comments box below which are your feelings and feedback about this etiquette. Let me also know if there are some other topics about wedding that you want discuss with me!

Stay Tuned!

Tricks in this post:
1. Good manner for the bride;
2. Good manner for the Groom.