Hello Friends!

Wedding are such amazing event, that kind of event where everything should be absolutely perfect! I participated of a lot of weddings during the last years and often I saw such a terrible things especially among the guests…

For this reason my purpose is to give you some good suggestion for to be perfect and matching with all kind of wedding days. Some weeks ago I made a post about some “bon-ton” rules for brides and grooms (if you haven’t read it yet here the link to the post). In today’s post I’m going to write a list of 10 rules for being the perfect wedding guest! If you follow these rules you’re going to be invited at each wedding day and, most important, you’re going to fit perfectly any single type of event.
So let see the 10 rules for being a perfect wedding guest

Before the wedding:

1. When you receive a wedding invitation, you should thank the couple as soon as you can and you should answer quickly about your participation at the event. In any case you should give your answer by the RSVP date.

2. When you choose the gift, please follow the recommendations received with the invitation card. It is also very important giving your gift (any type of gift even if you’re going to give money) before the wedding. It is very rude giving the gift during the wedding day.

During the Wedding Day:

3.  All the guests should arrive at the celebration place before the bride! At the same time you should wait the bride inside the church.

4. When you arrive at the church, choose the right side for grab a spot: on the left sit  the bride’s guests and relatives and on the right the groom’s ones. During the celebration, it is a good idea turn off the mobile phone and not speaking with other guests or commenting each single aspect of the ceremony.

5. Please do not throw the rice with violence! This gesture want to be a wish of prosperity for the new family and it is not nice to hurt someone! By the way, do you know why we throw the rice? Here the answer!

6. You should not change the table’s spots, neither change your table! The “tableau de mariage”  took a lot of time to the spouses, please respect their choices!

7. If the aperitif or the dinner itself is a buffet dinner: please do not stuff yourself and do not run to the food like you are didn’t eat from weeks!

8. It is absolutely rude leaving the party before the wedding cake moment! In similar way it is ill-mannered grabbing a bunch of sugared almonds or taking away some party’s decorations.

9. If a problem occur to you, you do NEVER boring the bride or the groom, if it is necessary you can talk with their best men or bridesmaids or their parents.

After the wedding day:

10. It is a really appreciable if you make a call to the bride and groom few days after the wedding for thank about the wedding day. If they are on their honey moon, you can send them a  thank you card.

Let’s talk about a good wedding outfit

The wedding outfit is a tricky argument. Very often some guests mistaking a wedding with the new year eve party, and they choose inappropriate outfits.

Let’s start from the beginning: it is avoided to wear a white dress, or any kind of dress which can appear similar to a wedding dress. The second hint is to avoid a total black outfit as well.

Because of it is going to be a wedding and not a disco party, you should avoid mini skirt, deep necklines, super high heels and paillettes and super shiny dresses. You have to choose a Ceremony dress (it could be a short dress or a long one it depends from the time of the wedding), and you should cover, at least during the ceremony, your shoulders.

At last please cover the bra straps! They are a disgusting things to see and they can ruin a perfect outfit. According to the very good manner, all the female guests, and also the bride, should wear the panty hose, in summer as well. In my honest opinion, it is really not necessary! I married in august and of course I didn’t wear a panty hose and neither all my female guests!

Hats are super trendy: big hats, tiny hats they are super cool! According to the most formal etiquette, you can wear the hat only if the bride’s mum as well wears the hat. As I said, this is the most stiff etiquette’s rules.

There are some good suggestions also for men, even if they are lucky in these events because they have less options than women and for this reason less chance to make a mistake. You should choose a proper suit: pay attention to the admitted colors and the style. You should match with the wedding style! Please be aware to the pant’s hem, to the pants length and please be sure that your shoes are perfectly clean!

If you have any doubt, the best thing to do is ask a suggestion to the bridesmaids and the best men, they know perfectly the wedding details.

If you follow my hints, you are going to be the perfect wedding guest, and you will not make any mistakes.

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Tricks in this post:

1. 10 simple rules for being a perfect wedding guest;
2. Choosing an appropriate outfit.